‘So you would just kill my kids then, is that it?’ This is a question someone asked me when I said that I was pro choice. Because obviously, my belief that women should be autonomous beings with the right to safe, accessible abortion is definitely the same thing as going Pharaoh on all the babies.

The fact that in 2014, we are STILL debating the rights to abortion astounds me. That we still have groups of people who want to restrict access, impose conditions or pass judgement really fucks me off. Sorry to bring out the P word but its patriarchal bullshit; trying to control and monitor bodies, trying to enforce notions of femininity on women (‘but you’re a woman – you MUST be maternal. How could you not want a baby?’) Anti abortion thoughts are rooted in traditional, patriarchal ideals where a woman is defined only in terms of her ability to reproduce and valued as a mother above other roles.

A pro-choice demonstrator stands outside the Irish parliament

I am pro choice because I believe that women know their bodies better than faceless politicians/religious zealots/armchair critics do and have the right to make decisions that best suit them. I am pro choice because I believe that no one should be forced to do something that could be detrimental to their state of well being. I am pro choice because I think that a baby born to a mother who doesn’t want it is cruel to everyone involved. I am pro choice because I support women and their rights to decide what happens to their bodies.

I have heard all of the pro life arguments you can throw at me.

Abortion offends God.

Whose God? The same one who sent plagues, a flood and destroyed cities? The same one who had kids mauled by bears and threatened to make the Israelites eat their own children? Yeah, sounds legit.

Pro choice is anti family.

Nope. I’m pro choice and pro family/pro child. Forcing a woman to have more children than she wants/can afford often forces them to live below the poverty line. Safe, accessible abortion can provide a way of stabilising family units by ensuring that women are in control of the number of children they have. In fact, a surprisingly high number of women who have an abortion do so because they already have children and don’t feel able to support more. Supporting the right to abortion is not the same as saying ‘I hate children and want them all dead and P.S. everyone should die alone.’ Furthermore, 81% of abortions in the UK in 2012 were carried out on single women so it’s not quite the evil act it’s made out to be, tearing innocent families apart is it?

You should use protection/abortion isn’t there to be used as contraception.

Less than 10% of abortions are carried out as a result of no contraception being used. Contraception isn’t always reliable and in some countries, not always available. Does it matter if a woman has 1 or 100 abortions? Really? Tell me how that affects your life personally.

It’s risky/often carried out too late

91% of abortions are carried out before a woman is 12 weeks pregnant. It’s much more likely for a woman to die in childbirth than through having an abortion. Medical abortions have less than 0.5% risk of serious complications. The risk of having an abortion in countries where is isn’t legal is much higher however which tells us that banning abortions doesn’t stop them from happening; it just makes them unsafe and dangerous for women. 


It is murder

Is it? Personhood isn’t rooted in fact or biological evidence; it’s a subjective term. The potential for life argument could apply to an unfertilized egg, in that the ability to become a person is possible. All sperm could potentially fertilize an egg; is masturbation genocide? Are miscarriages manslaughter? Before 12 weeks (when abortion is most common) you are talking about a clump of cells that are incapable of rational thought or self awareness. At this point, it couldn’t exist independently, outside of the womb.


Something that bothers me is the way that pro life thinkers approach the issue; trying to make women feel bad for their choices and shaming them into admissions of guilt. For some women, choosing to get an abortion is hard, horrible and heartbreaking. For others, it isn’t. There is no default setting for how a woman should act or feel following one. To me, anti abortion arguments smack of privilege and sanctimony. Thought up predominantly by men who will never get pregnant, therefore never have to go through an abortion.



Then we have the ‘ranking’ system that seems to come with abortion debate; only certain conditions seem acceptable to some people. ‘Oh. she was raped – that’s fine.’ ‘She got drunk so it’s not ok.’ This implication that only some abortions are justified or considered ‘worthy’ is harmful. Why can’t the reason ‘I don’t want this baby’ be enough to placate the masses? Ranking abortion reasons creates a system where some women are ‘bad’ and others are ‘good victims’ which creates tension within the pro choice camp. To me, you are either pro choice or you’re not. Pro choice doesn’t mean pro abortion; it means pro the rights of women to make the decisions that they want to, to have the right to access abortions in a timely, supportive, safe way. I think this statement on reproductive freedom sums it up nicely.

Defined by feminists in the 1970s as a basic human right, it includes the right to abortion and birth control, but implies much more. To be realised, reproductive freedom must include not only woman’s right to choose childbirth, abortion, sterilisation or birth control, but also her right to make those choices freely, without pressure from individual men, doctors, governmental or religious authorities. It is a key issue for women, since without it the other freedoms we appear to have, such as the right to education, jobs and equal pay, may prove illusory. 

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  • Becky Bedbug

    You are fast becoming my favourite person. Seriously. AMEN to all of this!

  • Simone Roberts

    You are also fast becoming MY favourite person! I think the ever divisive Caitlan Moran sums it up nicely:

    “I cannot understand anti-abortion arguments that centre on the sanctity of life. As a species we’ve fairly comprehensively demonstrated that we don’t believe in the sanctity of life. The shrugging acceptance of war, famine, epidemic, pain and life-long poverty shows us that, whatever we tell ourselves, we’ve made only the most feeble of efforts to really treat human life as sacred”

  • I honestly can’t believe it’s still a debate, why are people forcing there opinions on other peoples bodies, it seems insane to me. People seem to think pro choice is forcing people to have abortions which it definatly isn’t, pro life however is about forcing people do to things they don’t want to.

    • Em

      THIS! Thank you so much for this comment, it sums it up perfectly. Pro choice supports the right of the woman to make the decision which is best for her. Pro life only has one objective and is threatening and patronising. People seem to equate pro choice with pro kill all the babies which is ridiculous! xxx

  • I totally agree with this – it’s crazy that this is still a debate. Anti-abortion? Don’t have one then! I would much rather children were brought into this world in a thought-out, considered manner rather than being brought up in possible poverty with a parent(s) who resent them.

    Also, would these anti-abortionists like to help support pregnant single women whose partners have run for the hills the second they heard pregnant as it (far too) often ends up that both the woman and child suffer while the lad gets off scot free.

    • Em

      Completely agree; abortion is often thought of exclusively as a female act, as if we somehow get ourselves knocked up. Bringing an unwanted child into the world, where it might suffer as a result of poverty, neglect or resentment is a horrible thought.
      Anti abortionists often confuse pro choice with pro kill everything!